Yes. Rehearsal dates are also first come, first serve, so if you would like one, book it early as well. If you book your rehearsal but want to run your own rehearsal to save some $ in this overly expensive process, I am happy to send you a step by step document
Yes! We wouldn’t meet if I wasn’t.
Yes! If I am available I can travel. Preference should always be given to the local marriage commissioners: there are marriage commissioners in every community in Alberta. If it is a busy August long weekend you may want to contact marriage commissioners outside your geographical area, but there will be travel costs. If you are having a hard time finding someone, let me know and I will be happy to provide suggestions.
Yes. I will perform small ceremonies (less than 6 people total) in my house or back yard; but my residence is meant to be a private, low-cost location. If you are looking for music, grand entrances, fire-jugglers, etc, I can also suggest MANY other venues, depending on your budget. From a Second Cup coffee shop, to the Art Gallery of Alberta…
Yes, see my website Is the fee a donation (no! I spend it foolishly).
I started in September, 2013. I am around 400 as of 2018. The second question is a long story! The short version is because I enjoy it immensely.
Yes. I will send you two templates after our meeting to get you started.
Yes! It is your day. You should do exactly what you want! As a secular officiant, I cannot do anything religious. If you would like someone to come forward to do a bible reading, bless the ceremony, etc that is great! I am happy to help.
This is why it is nice to meet in person. To see if I remind you of that person from high school that superglued your locker shut, or more like someone that should officiate your big day.
My mother-in-law made me ask this question to the minister who officiated for my wife and I. She said it was the normal thing to do. I said “I am paying him AND I have to feed him?” She said “Yes! It is tradition” So I invited him. He never showed up. If I only knew then what I know now. Anyway, if your Mother-in-law makes you do this, let her know that tradition is old-school, and “Thank you kindly for the offer, but no thank you.” I do enjoy this work, but I also enjoy my evenings with friends and family
Here are a few of my ideas for the selection of your wedding venue. In general, it revolves around how many people, and what your budget it. There are many great free locations in the capital region, but these tend to be outside, and in the river valley area.
Great! Keep in mind there are no rights or wrongs to this. There are traditions, but since you have decided not to get married in a long church ceremony, you can do whatever you want! So have fun with it, and make your ceremony reflect your personalities. Make it as long or as short as you would like, and your ceremony can be as informal or as traditional as you want. The steps below are written for a more traditional bride and groom wedding. You can substitute any labels for the actual two people getting married.
If the person that is doing the music is there, they should be familiar with who will give the direction to start the ceremony; whether to let songs play full, or fade them out, and when to play additional songs (document signing, recessional song, etc.)
One of the biggest things between a good wedding and a great wedding is how smooth the music goes. Nothing that makes people cringe more than the person doing the music accidently playing the exit song (by AC/DC) instead of the wonderful Wedding March you had planned for the bride’s entrance. Or the “clunk” of songs that abruptly stop, or the person doing the music being too far away from the Bluetooth receiver and everything just disappears. DJ’s change more to be there for just the ceremony, but they also have practiced a lot. So if a friend is doing this for you, get them to practice a bit with the actual set up. Gradual, super slow fade out of the music makes it wonderful elegant. The subtle touch of timing the music to when everyone is back from the signing and gently fading out the music is amazing.
If you get through the rehearsal and think of anything else you would like said, let me know! Sometimes it is the evening before that you realize that you need an announcement at the end for people to exit through the North Doors only, etc.
I have been through this hundreds of times, and I am going to gently guide you through the whole process. All of the items in this document I am going to coach you on, very quietly, throughout. “Psssst! Okay! Almost done! Turn and face the audience now!” It will look amazing!
Here are a few “Best Practices” for a successful wedding ceremony. General ideas that will make your ceremony look amazing. The small details are the difference between a good ceremony, and an incredible ceremony.
I often get asked about “what problems have you seen?” I like to claim that I have never seen any problems at any ceremonies that I have performed. Even the one where the two little boys in the matching suits in the front row were rolling on the floor fighting with one another as the bride walked in with her Dad was awesome. But here are a few things that you might want to avoid:
In general, I think that the more planning into the logistics and ceremony script you have, the better the ceremony will progress.